The Lotts: Making it Look
Easy
We all know or know people who seem like they
were born to do something. Whether it's Tiger Woods making a putt
or Yo-Yo Ma playing a sonata, these are people who are so good at
what they do, they make it look easy. At FaithBridge Foster Care,
we have many foster families like this. They show such love and
devotion to their foster children - and have such good results -
that you can't help but think "they're naturals."
Courtney and Emory Lott are one such family.
The couple, who at the time were fostering two young boys,
participated as part of an "Ask the foster parent" panel during a
recent impact training session. They were jokingly told by their
FaithBridge counselors that they wouldn't be asked back because
they made everything sound so wonderful and easy.
The Lotts laugh about their reputation as
superstars and note that it's not always easy. "We've had some
bumps along the way," says Emory, "but the process has been great.
None of the things have been unreasonable, considering where most
of these kids are coming from."
Unlike many prospective foster families,
Courtney and Emory already had experience with being foster
parents. Two years ago, they had assumed temporary custody of Mina,
who was 4-years old at the time. She was such a natural fit with
the Lotts and their biological son, Aidan, that when the option of
adoption became available, they made Mina a permanent member of the
family.
The addition of Mina went so smoothly that
Courtney and Emory were considering foster care again when they
joined First Baptist Church Woodstock. "We had just changed
churches and on the first Sunday we attended we heard the pastor
speak about foster care," says Emory. "We felt called to be a part
of it. It opened up an opportunity for us and we were excited about
the chance to expand our family. We love kids wanted to help take
care of kids who need a loving home."
Because Mina's foster arrangement was private
and did not involve DFCS, the Lotts were unsure of what to expect
as foster parents with FaithBridge Foster Care. They were prepared
for the emotional demands but not for government bureaucracy.
Placing their faith in God and trusting that FaithBridge would help
them manage DFCS, Courtney and Emory followed their calling and in
October 2008 welcomed into their home two young brothers.
"It's been great," says Emory. "Like Mina, they
fit with the family really well." The Lotts have worked hard to
make the transition a smooth one by ensuring that the boys feel
safe and secure with them. "The oldest-one has come to know
and trust us and realizes he isn't going anywhere. We've definitely
got our routine down pat."
Adding to their 2010 holiday cheer, the Lotts
celebrated the birth of their newest addition right before
Thanksgiving and became a forever family with the adoption of
5-year old Michael and 2 year-old Carson. This amazing family of
eight includes both adopted and birth children of different races,
demonstrating God's love for all His children.
While their experience has been overwhelmingly
positive, the Lotts acknowledge that being a foster parent is
challenging and may not be appropriate for everyone. "If you want
to do a good deed, this is not what you do," says Courtney. "The
decision has to be from the heart. Some people have good
intentions, but it's not something they were called to do. Giving
up children up who you've had in your home is a difficult thing to
do. Dealing with birth parents is difficult. That's why this has to
be a decision from your heart."
If your heart is calling you to foster care,
find out more about FaithBridge Foster Care by attending one of our
orientation sessions.